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Grateful for Everything?
Really? Are you sure? I had to pause when I saw this phrase. It’s one thing to be grateful, but to be grateful for everything? That feels like a big ask. What do you think?
What Does It Mean to Be Grateful?
According to Google Dictionary, "grateful" is an adjective that describes feeling or showing appreciation for something or someone—similar to being thankful. That makes sense. I can appreciate that, and I am grateful—most of the time—for those close to me, my humble abode, and the glorious view I wake up to most mornings. But how do we truly cultivate gratitude? And gratitude for everything? Let’s break it down.
The Journey to Gratitude
Personally, I’ve always appreciated certain things—nature, a beautiful sunset, mountains, rivers. You get the idea. But being grateful is something deeper. It’s not just about acknowledging beauty; it’s about truly feeling connected to it, as well as to the people and circumstances in our lives that bring meaning.
I’ve found that in moments of vulnerability—when I feel lost, scared, or overwhelmed—gratitude can be an anchor. Anxiety pulls us out of ourselves, trapping us in cycles of worry and self-doubt. The mind races, trying to fix or control things, but often, that only leads to more distress. In those moments, if I can pause, even briefly, I can reconnect—with a mountain view, with a loved one, or simply with the present moment. Gratitude brings me back to myself.
Life’s Challenges and Gratitude
There are times in life—losing a loved one, experiencing a breakup, dealing with uncertainty—when we feel shaken. Our comfort zones are disrupted, and suddenly, we realize just how much we valued what we had. These moments can make gratitude difficult but also more profound. Being grateful is a skill, a tool we can cultivate, just like self-care (which, by the way, is rarely taught in schools or even within families).
One simple way to practice gratitude is by taking time to reconnect. For me, that often means sitting outside in the morning with a cup of tea, looking at the mountains, and remembering that I am part of this world. In those moments, gratitude expands my perspective and brings a sense of peace.
What Does Gratitude Feel Like?
For me, gratitude is about connection—to something or someone. If I’ve had a fight with my son, for example, later, when emotions settle, I can pause and remember who he truly is. I can see the good in him again. Gratitude is an aspect of love.
Gratitude also helps soften our defences. When I notice I’m being overly controlling, I often realise it’s because I’m scared for my son and want him to succeed. Gratitude allows me to step back and adjust my approach in a way that better supports him.
Can We Be Grateful for Ourselves?
This can be challenging. But while sipping my tea in the morning, I can acknowledge my choice to practice gratitude. I can be grateful that I took time for myself, that I made a nourishing choice, that I am learning. So often, we drench ourselves in self-judgment and criticism—things we would never say to others, yet we mercilessly tell ourselves. This isn’t entirely our fault; it’s the culture we live in. But we can change that. Gratitude, including gratitude for ourselves, is part of that shift.
The Bigger Question: Can We Be Grateful for Everything?
I’m not sure. I want to say yes, but some things feel too hard—wars, inflation, suffering. How can we be grateful for those? Perhaps true gratitude is about surrendering to "what is" without judgment. I’ve experienced glimpses of that—moments of awe at the wonder of life. But I’ve also had times when I wasn’t grateful at all—when I was hurt, afraid, and blaming.
Still, when I return to gratitude, even in small ways—appreciating my surroundings, my loved ones, or myself—I feel a connection to love, tranquility, and happiness. And for that, I am truly grateful. xx
The Wandering Womb
In ancient Greece, Hippocrates, the father of modern medicine, and his followers attributed many female ailments to the so-called "wandering womb." They believed that the uterus could move freely within the body, causing various health issues depending on its position. If it traveled upward, it could disrupt organs such as the liver or spleen, leading to fatigue, sluggishness, vertigo, or general ill health. If it moved downward, it was thought to cause choking, loss of speech, fainting, or even sudden death.
The concept of the wandering womb was often used to explain nearly any female malady. Aristotle even described women as "deformed males," suggesting that the uterus played a role in their supposed instability and unpredictable nature.
The Greek physician Aretaeus recognised the womb’s supposed sensitivity to pleasant smells, leading to the practice of applying fragrant substances to the vagina to "coax" the uterus back into place. Physicians also prescribed frequent pregnancy and sexual activity to keep the womb "occupied" and prevent it from wandering.
By the 19th century, this ancient belief evolved into the medical diagnosis of "hysteria," a condition attributed to women’s reproductive systems. Symptoms such as anxiety, depression, and nervousness were all classified as female-specific disorders. Treatments included vapors, hypnosis, and even vibrators to "cure" hysteria.
Fortunately, Sigmund Freud challenged the idea that hysteria was caused by a wandering womb. He argued that it was a psychological condition originating in the brain and noted that men, too, could suffer from hysteria. His theories, though controversial, ultimately influenced modern psychology, including his infamous Oedipus complex.